Helping Kids See the Value of Rules


Here is lesson #1 of the “What’s the Big Deal?” series in our preteen Jr. Church. The purpose of these lessons is to talk about the “struggle” going on in the minds of preteens by using some difficult questions they may ask. Our first lesson was Why Do My Parents Always Say No? Here is the outline for you to use for discussing this week with your kids. I hope it is a help to you.


Ever wonder why it seems your parents never let you do anything? Why it feels like they never say yes? Maybe your parents have “so many rules!” These rules could be anything from homework to how you dress to TV watching to reading and even to which friends you can hang out with and those you can’t! Have you ever been punished for breaking a specific rule that your parents have in your home?

You might wish for the time when you are no longer under the rules of your parents. But, are you better off without them?

You may have friends that have lower rules from their parents. I knew which ones of my friends had parents who let them get away with more. I knew whose house to visit so I could play games and watch TV that my parents wouldn’t allow.

Your parents have rules for a reason.

Here are five things to think about you when you feel like your parents are always saying no.

  1. God leads us too. Psalm 32:8
  1. Learn to control your emotions. Proverbs 29:11

    Avoid whining, sulking, and childish tantrums. No matter how much you feel like slamming the door or stomping around the house when your parents restrict you, such behavior will probably lead to more rules—not to more freedom.

  1. Try to see it from your parents view. Proverbs 3:1-2

    Ask, ‘What are my parents trying to accomplish with their rules?’ They are trying to help me become a better person.

  1. Be thankful for rules AND punishment:

    It brings wisdom Proverbs 29:15

It proves that your parents love you. Proverbs 13:24 

  1. Rules are for your best! Ephesians 6:1-2 





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